Approval in the DD Hobby/Community

(Not sure if this should go into the DD Questions and Answers forum or here as I've seen people ask questions here as well ^^")

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Hello there everyone! Got a few questions for you all!

Curious to know, how do you handle not being approved or possibly ignored by others in the DD community (if that’s happened to you before)? Does it make you not want to have DDs anymore because of not having any approval/being ignored or friends in the hobby?

Also, how do you handle others who are not in the DD hobby who do not approve of your hobby or ignore you because of your new-found hobby?

Do you guys ignore those kinds of people, try to explain to them why they could be wrong, or what do you personally do?

OR

Are you “bulletproof? Nothing to lose?” ♫ ♪

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For me, approval usually has a big impact on me. I either want to share what I do with a close friend or someone who looks like they might be interested/someone who I’ve become comfortable around talking to before (or just with the community I’m in, in general). However, if I feel ignored (or actually am ignored) or someone doesn’t approve then I start losing my want to do whatever it is I’m doing. I personally hate it but struggle with it from time to time (I'm trying to be better about it now). Curious to know if anyone else feels this way.

(Now, when I say approval I don’t mean someone saying “you’re allowed” to do something. I mean they approve as in they make positive comments and things of that nature)

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Thank you for looking everyone and hope you all + your doll family have a great day!

Edited March 21, 2019 by Pickle

I guess I'd have to say I fall in the bulletproof group. I've never really fit in with any of the main clicks growing up and having always been bullied I grew a thick skin and learned that it doesn't matter what others think. Sure when I start something I'll share it, but pay attention to how they react. If positive I'll share more, if negative, then I'll never bring it up again. But I won't stop. Like with DD's, my parents didn't really seem all that happy about it, so I don't bring it up. But my mother in law thinks they are adorable and has helped me with sewing things. My father in law just shrugs and says everyone has their hobbies.

 

But I am a guy that not only plays with dolls, but toy trains too. So I've never really grown up.

Well, my best friend is actually into the doll and DD hobby, so I always had someone to share my dolls with. At some point we had a fight though (of sorts), so I felt kind of alone. I still liked my dolls, even if I enjoyed them alone (except a few that i was really bitter at and ended up selling XD).

But as for community approval, it does have a small impact in what I like to share. I have a lot of trouble gaining followers on instagram, even though I think that my photography isn't bad and my dolls aren't styled bad (and said friend has over 1k followers with similar photos and dolls so...). I sometimes get a little sad that people don't seen to like my dolls and / or photography, but that has no impact on how much I like the dolls themselves. But I take notice of which dolls get more comments / likes and will share those more since people seem to like them more...

 

When it comes to people not in the hobby though, I don't really care. They can't get what they are not into after all. Just like I don't get people who collect other things, or who go out for drinks every night, or who like super loud club music...

 

I guess this was a weird answer, idk if I make sense...

I don't think that I have been ignored by anyone in the hobby. If I have, I didn't notice. Maybe the only time I have been ignored was perhaps by someone with a lot of popularity... and I think they probably did not see my message rather than blatantly ignoring me. Even so, that hasn't really happened to me either.

 

So... I don't have experience with it. If it happened from someone multiple times, it would probably hurt my feelings. I don't think it would change how I feel about dolls or the hobby, though. I would probably stop trying to contact or communicate with whoever ignored me, and then move past it.

 

I haven't had anyone not approve of my hobby, most people seem to be intrigued. I also haven't had anyone ignore me because I started collecting dolls either. The only real negativity I have had is from people who don't understand. Normally, they have odd opinions like anime being strictly sexual... So they reflect that onto the dolls, thinking that all of the dolls are sexual/perverted as well. But once they see my dolls and how I dress them, they tend to stop feeling that way.

 

I can understand wanting to share things with others, and wanting people to notice and acknowledge what you have shared. I think it is very normal and valid to want approval from others. I hope that it will not keep you from doing things that you want to do in the future.

 

Also, I feel like anyone that blatantly makes your interests and hobbies seem negative is probably not someone good to have around. I feel like a nice person, or a good friend, wouldn't repeatedly try to be negative about things that someone likes. That is just how I feel, though. I'm sure others might disagree.

It's your doll, you do what you want. There's some rather vocal people out there who want to be praised and followed. Some people forget this is a very small and niche hobby.

In person, like day to day life I hold the approval of others as too high of a priority.

 

Online though, I roll around like a dumbass. I embarrass myself and I do what I want. I’m sure there’s people on this website who find me annoying, extra, idk. I’m very critical of everything I do. (In my teen years I was a massive internet troll. Not the hurtful or racist kind. Just the annoying, airheaded kind. So strangers opinions don’t phase me.)

 

However, I love my girls. I come here to share their adorable faces, learn how to take care of them, and conduct easy sales. Nobody disliking me can ruin the hobby for me.

 

Im like herpes, always making an inconvenient show of myself

First of all, I'm sorry you might feel ignored! It's disappointing. Regarding people in the DD community, I have always felt that if there are people who think like you and you are fortunate enough to connect (whether just online or in real life), that is a real bonus. I like having special friends in the doll community. It's not much fun having no one to share with, because you're so excited and happy, and it is quite natural to want to share your enthusiasm! I do feel it can't be forced, though. It just sort of happens!! I think it never hurts to send a PM or to comment on a post, just to see if you have something more in common. But if I don't have any friends in a new group, or if I feel I'm being ignored, I still get enough enjoyment out of the dolls themselves to continue on the forum. I always like seeing other people's dolls and what they do with them, and I also like to learn new information about the dolls.

 

I don't bother trying to share with people outside the doll community. Many of them might think you're weird or childish. Some are genuinely interested, but probably not enough to approve of your hobby or understand your excitement.

 

I am fortunate to have a small group of long-time doll collector friends that I can share things with. They're not specifically into DDs (they like resin dolls and other types of dolls), but they know enough about DDs to understand me and the dolls, and of course they're always happy for me!

 

Linda S.

galatia9

Eh...I guess I lean on the side of bulletproof? Only in the way that being ignored isn't unusual for me. I have acquaintences I'd like to get to know better, but I'm invisible in the sense that people don't notice me much for whatever reason, and I guess that's fine. I'd rather be unnoticed than noticed for the wrong reasons.

 

It doesn't make me like my dolls any less. Since I'm in that for me and my own interests first and foremost. It actually only took its toll on me in another collecting hobby. Since it was only about buying and not about customization or anything. In that case, I just didn't fit in with any of the two groups the hobby was divided into and one side was so particulary nasty to what I collected that I gave that hobby up and am going to sell everything.

 

Here, there is a group I comment back and forth with and I genuinely enjoy that, but I've yet to make any hobby close friends, I suppose? Like I don't have anyone I message every day or anything. And that is a bit lonely, but I don't make friends easily for some reason? I think that goes back to the invisible thing. I'm sort of forgettable for some reason or something like that? I don't think I'm really disliked or anything, just that people forget I exist.

 

I like to post with the intent to share what I'm excited about, and if other people like it, then I'm happy about it. But if I'm just ignored, then that's okay with me too. The sharing part is the fun part for me, not really the attention I get for it. If that makes sense.

to sinclair: 

I totally understand about not fitting in with the main cliques. I was always sort of the outcast that fell into the nerdy weirdos of the school. But, luckily, I got to be around some humorous people even if other people gave us nasty glares and possibly yelled at us. Being alone though and not around the group, a lot of women liked to mess with me. Definitely not as bad as what you went through, most likely, as a man/boy as other men/boys can be pretty nasty and even more physical than some women can get. I’m glad you made it through those times though and are here!

Glad you have someone at least that think they are adorable and helps you to sew! That’s some good bonding time and seems like it could be fun!

Ah yeah, I get that. Do you actually play with the toy trains in your hand(s) that are small individual trains or do you just put a long one on an electrical track and watch it go? ^^

to Shailara:

Yeah, that’s what I hope doesn’t happen to me (something making me bitter at them). Really sorry about your Instagram though but from what I’ve seen, like Youtube, it’s hard to get noticed since there are so many people.

Totally understood your answer! You are perfectly fine! Thank you so much for sharing!

to Amber:

I’m glad you haven’t had those experiences. That’s good to just have a positive experience all around in the grand scheme of things.

That’s good to move past it! Just hard sometimes I guess for me since I let it get underneath my skin but I’ve been trying to be better with it!

Yeah, I’m thinking from all the comments and some very encouraging words from my bf, that I’ll like what I like but not care what others think or say (or not say) since it’s about what makes me happy in the end with this hobby or anything I choose to do with my own life.

I agree with that last statement, definitely (unless the thing that someone likes is very bad for their health/mental health then that gets a bit sketchy)!

to rukitron:

Heh, I’m glad you just simply put it out there. Def get what you mean and I’ll try my best to do what I want!

to Sniiksnak:

Ah, I see. I tend to do that every now and then (I especially hate it when I do it around complete strangers). When I’m around people I know, I tend not to care too much what they think when it comes to who I am (as they should know who I am but if not, then I guess they learn quickly or just forget/not pay attention).

Heh about being a troll. I’m glad you can embarrass yourself and do what you want. Seems empowering~ ^^

Seriously am glad that no one can ruin this hobby for you. Stay strong with the dolls!

(also, when I read your small text there, it made me immediately smile. good job! >//u//< d )

to galatia9:

You’re fine! I haven’t been active here in about a year or so. I did leave not planning on coming back but, in the end, I couldn’t stay away. >//w//< I’m glad you can still get plenty of enjoyment out of the dolls and even seeing others’. You’ve always been very friendly and easy going when you’ve replied to my posts and when I’ve seen you reply to others. It’s very nice to see! I agree that it is very fortunate if you get to connect with someone as it can be difficult these days (at least, it would seem so for me ^^”).

Yeah, I guess many would but you never know who might randomly say, “Hey! Those dolls look awesome! Where can I get one?” Then you just converted someone. Heh-heh. But, I do get what you mean. ^^

Glad you are able to have a little group! That’s very nice~

to Noxxbunny:

Yeah…I’ve thought that same way before on a lot of occasions. I try not to be that noticed in real life and I definitely try not to be noticed negatively online or offline.

And oh man. I hope you are able to sell everything that you need to! I wish you all the luck in the world with it!

I see what you mean there. I don’t make friends easily either but, for me, I’m pretty sure it might be because of certain things and not because I’m invisible overall (though I can be pretty stealthy when I want/need to be ). I’m sorry that you have to go through that though. I hope you can get some more recognition and not be a ghost! Also, I'm glad that it doesn’t change what you like in the end and that you keep on going. Hope it stays that way!

I really like your view there on that the sharing part is the fun part and not the attention. And yeah, that makes total sense to me. ^w^ d

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Thank you everyone so far for sharing your experiences/feelings on the matter! I really appreciate it!

Edited March 21, 2019 by Pickle

I understand that it can be difficult to move past it. There are things that have happened to me that have stayed with me, but for other people they might have moved on very easily. So I completely get where you are coming from with it being hard to move on.

 

I agree with your boyfriend, that is the best way to view things like hobbies. If this hobby, or any other hobby, makes you happy... I hope that you will continue to do it, even if you have people that do not approve or ignore you. Although, I hope that no one in the hobby will ignore you.

 

Oh, yes I agree. If it is a dangerous hobby, I think that a good friend would say something about it. When I said that, I meant hobbies like dolls, or similar to dolls.

 

Did you ask this question because of your own experience or feelings? Do you want to share?

Amber said:

I understand that it can be difficult to move past it. There are things that have happened to me that have stayed with me, but for other people they might have moved on very easily. So I completely get where you are coming from with it being hard to move on.

 

I agree with your boyfriend, that is the best way to view things like hobbies. If this hobby, or any other hobby, makes you happy... I hope that you will continue to do it, even if you have people that do not approve or ignore you. Although, I hope that no one in the hobby will ignore you.

 

Oh, yes I agree. If it is a dangerous hobby, I think that a good friend would say something about it. When I said that, I meant hobbies like dolls, or similar to dolls.

 

Did you ask this question because of your own experience or feelings? Do you want to share?

I asked the question because I was curious to see if others felt the same way, and to see what their experiences/feelings were. You can also say it is from my feelings and past experiences (w/ other communities and people in general, real life or online). However, I already shared my feelings on the subject already in the first post, and I'd rather not go into any deeply personal detail on the matter concerning my feelings and experiences.

Edited March 21, 2019 by Pickle

Sure, no worries.

to sinclair:Do you actually play with the toy trains in your hand(s) that are small individual trains or do you just put a long one on an electrical track and watch it go?

 

Mostly electric Lionel style trains, but I also still play with the pushing kind when I play with my boys. And I have LEGO ones that just end up getting pushed around as they eat batteries.

sinclair said:

Pickle said:

to sinclair:Do you actually play with the toy trains in your hand(s) that are small individual trains or do you just put a long one on an electrical track and watch it go?

 

Mostly electric Lionel style trains, but I also still play with the pushing kind when I play with my boys. And I have LEGO ones that just end up getting pushed around as they eat batteries.

Gotcha. My friend likes the electric ones but he mainly wants one to have underneath the Christmas tree when we live together. He really likes them around that time of year. By boys, you mean your children (just asking to make sure I understand correctly as other people I've talked to meant boys as in their friends or somethin' ^^" )? If so, that's really sweet that you can play trains with them! Hope they have just as much fun as you do! >w< d

Edited August 15, 2019 by Pickle

Yup, I'm a father of three very active boys, 14, 5, and 3. I always wanted a girl, but nature has said no. So my daughters are vinyl and collectively they get as spoiled as a real daughter would be.

Yup, I'm a father of three very active boys, 14, 5, and 3. I always wanted a girl, but nature has said no. So my daughters are vinyl and collectively they get as spoiled as a real daughter would be.

Awh~ Well, at least you were able to fill the daughter void somehow!

I ignore a lot of people all the time. If I find you annoying I see no reason to try and be friends with you... I was involved in some very minor drama in the DD hobby before, where I was blatantly ignoring someone for the good of my own sanity. It's not that I want the person to quit the doll hobby, it doesn't bother me at all if someone I don't particularly like decides to be in the same hobby, when we live on two different continents. But this person would srsly not leave me alone. I've also gotten a lot less "vocal" in the discord and not lurking on the forums as much anymore, since it's left a bad taste in my mouth and I can just as easily chat with my local doll comm about anything doll related even if they don't have DDs specifically.

 

If I was ever ignored I don't think it would affect me too much unless the person was one of my close friends, then it would suck. But I honestly don't expect a random stranger on the internet to give me their time of the day, nice if they do and we can chat, but I understand writing to someone all day every day is annoying.

 

As to people outside the hobby not approving of my hobbies, I'm used to it at this point. My best friend hates my dolls and would burn them to the ground if he had the chance (not literally but you know) My boyfriend hates my clothing style. My parents hate both and think I should be more normal, but I don't really care at this point, lol. None of my friends have started ignoring me because of my hobbies though (in like recent years) 'cause I've always had "weird" hobbies so they never expected normalcy from me. I've made good friends with my local doll comm, so I have plenty to talk to about dolls, if I want or I could just start chatting in the discord again. Even if one person "ignores" you on discord it's so easy to start a conversation with anyone who's active at the time you are.

 

Also got my first DD this year and they are really not that popular in Denmark compared to resin-BJDs or even Smart Dolls. We had our first dollcon this year with 0 DDs and 4 SmDs, with the rest being resin-BJDs and maybe a monster high. So there's no local DD community for me to seek approval of.

Whenever I feel like I'm getting ignored I just take a break and enjoy my dolls on my own. When I first got into DDs I was interested in the community aspect. It was very different from the resin side of dolls and I really wanted to be a part of it... But when I finally got my first DD that community started dying. Ever since I've been searching for a DD community like a few years back or to form a new one just like it! I hope that eventually everyone can come together, share things with each other, and be friends with each other more than they do now.

I guess im bulletproof because since day 1 I have been the only one to enjoy Dollfie Dream in person. I dont have anyone I know in person who gets my interest in them. It kinda does suck to have nobody to share any enjoyment with when it comes to them. My best friend collects U.S Army toys and memorabilia and has a very extensive collection, so we both know what its like to have a passion for collecting. I have helped him setup displays in his home and gave opinions, and he has done the same with me.

 

I have always been too afraid to take my dolls out for photoshoots because of possible damage, on top of nobody to do it with. So they have always sat in their cases which has made getting involved with the community online a bit harder and less appealing.

 

I have come around to having a renewed interest in expanding what fun I can have with them. I bought my first outfit that has stain potential, and said screw it if it stains ill buy a new body. Though these days parts are much easier to obtain then back 5 years and more.

 

I may get a Dollfie Dream standard model to experiment with. So far, I only have limited releases that are too expensive to replace.

I think I'm probably bulletproof by now. I'm new to DDs, but I have been collecting resin dolls for a long time.

 

But thinking back to when I first started collecting dolls, I've probably started out with seeking approval from my friends and family. I used to talk about them to anyone who would listen, to the point where it intrigued them enough to order dolls of their own. Sadly, their interest didn't last long so I was always stuck in a cycle of talking about them with a new circle of people, getting them interested enough to dip their toes in the hobby, then dropping it due to lack of interest, time, or the high costs involved.

 

Eventually, I've come to realize that I didn't really need anyone's approval to enjoy it to the fullest. I like this hobby because I love customizing and coming up with characters and stories for my dolls. I love taking pictures of them and posting them online for others to view.

 

I love what I'm doing, and it doesn't really matter whether those around me approved of this hobby or not. All that matters is that I'm happy doing what I'm doing.

To be totally honest regarding approval with my involvement in the DD community, or doll community really because I collect quite a few different types of dolls, I would have to say I'm embarrassed when people find out I collect dolls.

 

I've been in this hobby for 10 years and love everything related to dolls, except I find that people out int the real world are critical of a grown woman that plays with dolls. Maybe it's because I like to dress nicely and look a certain way, but when people find out, I can see the shocked look on their faces which turns into them trying not to laugh. It's farkin embarrassing and makes me mad. I wish I could just ignore them, and I try, but it's still there.

 

About the DD community, people here seem to be very nice to newcomers, and I think thats partially to see if they will fit into the scene here. I think you have to be 100% invested in DD to be truly accepted, and if your not, you are merely tolerated. That's one of my theories anyway. I don't take it personally though because we all collect dolls here, and I like the feeling of freedom to talk and listen to doll related subjects even though I don't feel to be part of the community.

As much as I hate it I know I rely on people's approval too much. I'm very slowly and carefully trying to get back into the hobby after the avalanche of health issues and it's super hard. I've missed the entire community so much but it has been a long time since I've been regularly active and I'm still trying to figure out how the community has changed in roughly the last two years.

 

I get so severely insecure when I feel like I'm not sure how to even talk to anyone anymore. Sometimes because I don't have the energy to try and keep track of "all the things" for the current and upcoming projects without getting very confused, as in it literally gives me headaches and makes me feel dizzy. I'm just so constantly aware of who the person was that everyone used to know here when I was super highly active. My life has changed so much that I can't even pretend to be normal on the internet. Just trying to keep my focus long enough to read through the pages of this thread was extremely hard.

 

The DD forums is still the group of people I consider my close friends. I've been trying very hard to not sound so constantly negative because that's not how DD make me feel. And I enjoy coming here because it's a happy place. But to be perfectly honest it's hard feeling like I'm nearly invisible compared to how it used to feel. I understand that there are a lot of newer people that have no idea who I am or even know about my Kiddos (oh god my Sig pic is utterly outdated! Rainie and Ringo don't even have that hair color now and that's less than half of the DD we have... ) but I'm so often struggling to not feel like a complete stranger. I worry a lot that I will be despised for some of the ways my life has changed.

 

I find it exceedingly physically difficult to do the fancy/large photo setups that I could manage 2 years ago. And I miss it a lot. But it feels like the photos I can do are 'completely unacceptable' simply because it's often the Kiddos on the bed since it's where I have to spend 50-75% of my time due to my energy reserves normally being dismally low. And the fact that the house is much more messy than I'd like because I can't go on a cleaning blitz without royally failing and having a physical crash for 2-3 days after actively cleaning for 20-40 minutes. I'm trying desperately hard to get things organized around here yet the challenge is that I'm regularly restricted to only 1/4 of our whole house since I can't run up and down the stairs all the time. So I feel like I'm constantly having to tell myself "No, you can't take this picture" "No you can't take that picture because nobody wants to see all that stupid messy stuff in the background!" I know it's true but it's really hard having to criticize myself before someone else does. In the end it just means that I can't participate.

 

And even when I do post pics it seems like no one comments. It makes me feel like I'm just sitting in a room talking to myself on the internet while I'm literally sitting alone, generally in bed, in a room with no sunlight and the TV constantly going so it feels less like solitary confinement. And I'm just sitting there thinking I just want someone to talk to DD stuff about since I'm slowly being able to interact with the Kiddos more now that I'm getting used to how to work around my food limitations that pretty much overtook my life the last year.

 

I haven't been able to sew in at least a year and a half. Hauling around fabric is exhausting so I'm still trying to figure out how to find the energy to get my sewing room organized again. I still don't know when I'll be able to wrap my head around drafting patterns. More than once I've thought about putting all the patterns I've drafted up here on the forums for free, because I struggle enough with daily life that doing some sort of business to sell them is utterly out of the question. But then I obsessively worry that they are not perfected and I'm not sure if I even would be able to write directions for them, so even all of that feels 'wasted' because I am so unsure what to do. I'd be so thrilled for people to use them, or for someone to alter them into a different style/pattern and post it back on the forums so I could just have a pattern to print out and sew without having to do multiple drafts and perfect the pattern.

 

Yet I still fear that my efforts to share would be ridiculed because they may not all fit my high standards for sewing I've talked about for a long time. I already know if I decide to do that It's going to take me a significant amount of time and energy to convert the files to PDF format to make them easy for printing off. I'd be thrilled if they could be open source patterns for the DD community. We certainly could use them! Nobody needs the hobby to be more expensive than it already is and it would give me such delight to see what people make from them. I'm reusing old clothes for DD outfits all the time and I'd love for others to have that opportunity too. Despite my excitement there is still the nagging voice that says nobody's going to care at the best of times.

 

Then there is the fact that I know I talk a ton about food. Probably to the point of irritation to most people. And on some levels that confuses me. Tama has always been my baking and cooking buddy. Cooking has always been a big part of his personality. Even back when it was just Tama, Dolly and Yuriko she was always trying to get him to bake her sweets. Over the last nearly two years I've had to make cooking my hobby simply to survive. I'm still in no way adept at it with my restrictions but I'm currently looking forward to a 'fancy' food like ravioli while something as simple as cold cereal is still eluding me. I've had to think about food so constantly that for many months I couldn't even extend the mental energy for the DD at all. So reaching a point where I can even talk with Tama about food at all is a major thing. And it's pretty much what his life consists of right now too. But I still fear that it's me being "too much" again and clueless that I'm irritating the heck out of people and don't notice.

 

I don't know how much of my fear of criticism/non-approval is all just in my head or how much of it is justified. What I do know is it has been so severely difficult for me to be a part of the community again because it seems like how I'm able to do things now is just unacceptable in many was. When truthfully I just miss my friends here so severely that it's been depressing not feeling like I even know how to talk or interact. Growing up I was always a kid who had the knack of saying just the wrong thing in a situation and was regularly criticized for it. That has been a major factor in why I can't simply brush off being ignored or snuffed because I have no idea what I did wrong.

 

I just know I'm trying so extremely hard to do my best to interact when I can and in the ways I can despite worrying that I'm doing everything wrong and just ticking people off. It should be no surprised that I have no friends outside the hobby. (Thank you for letting me talk about this as it has been bothering me for a few months now. I think I understood and answered the question correctly.)

 

As a side note: I love Instagram but god it's an isolating place! Almost no one actually talks!

 

~Sister Kyoya

(who always talks way the hell too much. Sorry about that. I just have too many words.)

It makes me feel like I'm just sitting in a room talking to myself on the internet while I'm literally sitting alone,

 

I often feel like this. Several things in your post ring close to home for me.

It makes me feel like I'm just sitting in a room talking to myself on the internet while I'm literally sitting alone,

 

I often feel like this. Several things in your post ring close to home for me.

 

Food for thought.

 

Would you feel better if people responded simply out of obligation to respond, or responding out of genuine awe, or intrest.

 

Its a bit of a harsh way to look at things, but one youtuber once said in my opinion some wise words, if you're doing whatever it is you're doing just and only to be patted on the head (good boy, pretty boy, smart boy), its not going to end well when the attention drops.

 

I cant and wont argue that compliments don't help getting things done, but at the end of the day I've personally had to take the stance that I am in no obligation to produce things. I have to be in a mindset that I want to do things, because if I force it and and for whatever reason responses are scarce its going to be a negative impact.

 

As to no responses... Well one theory is if you specialize in over complicated things as a standard, it becomes just like that -- a standard for you, so despite best efforts you're doing whats expected of you on regular basis, you're not doing anything special anymore in terms of you as a producer.

 

In my case people might see the snapshot you take, which is just 5-10 seconds of their life, they dont see the at worst 30 minute balancing act to make a single pose happen without supports ... or they do and it rubs them the wrong way because you don't resort to photoshop to remove stuff...

 

Just my five cents... ultimately you need to be doing this for yourself, and yourself alone, everything else is just gravy... but then again I've given up on being one of the cool kids decades ago...

Would you feel better if people responded simply out of obligation to respond, or responding out of genuine awe, or intrest.

 

Well, the latter, of course.

 

What I was referring to and what I believe Sister Kyoya was referring to is just the feeling of lack of connection and the associated feel of isolation that comes from it.