Purchased Anya on someone else's account

7 hours ago, teensybits said:

 

It'd be hilarious if you can ruin her account. I'm not sure if Volks has a policy against letting people access/use your account but if so she might lose it just by sharing it with you and letting you use it to order - you might be able to get her into a situation where she A: confesses she let you use the account (therefore Anya is yours), or B: you broke into her account to order a doll (therefore Anya is yours), or C : no one used her account but her, in which case she used someone else's credit card, which would also compromise her account and get the order cancelled. 

I'm happy you were able to at least get the money from your mom for her - I'm sure someone will want to sell their preorder or the doll once it arrives. She's an odd size so it's more likely someone just won't like it as much in person.

Unfortunately, Volks pretty much said they don't care - they got their money and it doesn't matter to them where it came from. However I posted on Facebook and hopefully whenever she shows off Anya or tries to sell her, people will let her know it IS a stolen doll. The situation is a lot more complicated than I'm able to share, but its still doll theft. My mom isn't able to give me the money for Anya + all the thousands my sister stole from me for other dolls/doll stuff. 

And I decided to sell my Yor and not even try to get Anya. This whole thing has tainted my hobby and those dolls are just sour to me now. Being screamed at for days, being blamed for this, being told I betrayed the family and broke the family, it's all too much. I need to work on a lot of self healing and I think not having those particular dolls will help. 

 

(If you wanna see the post it's in Shtty Doll Transactions. I'm hoping when she sells Anya people will look up her name) 

 

On 6/30/2024 at 6:28 AM, Inolth said:

Yeah, it's my sister's account. I put my bank card on there to pay, but I have no way of accessing the account or the email account. I can't even dispute ad it's been so long and I did authorize the transaction. Like my only option is to let her have the doll without a fuss. This really was more of a vent post, I think, because there's not much I can really do at the moment. My mom controls my job - it's an incredibly good paying job, so if I upset her over "arguing over a doll" I will lose my income AND be disowned. Just a super bad situation. I realize there is nothing I can do and that's fine. The job I have allows me to pay bills AND be able to buy the things I want so I just need to be grateful for that. 

I'm really sorry you're going through this - this situation is rotten to its core, and it's far too common for families with toxic family members to try to make the reasonable person "shut up" and not rock the boat when they're being treated awful, because the "instigator" will kick up a huge fuss, as well as other dynamics that might be at play.

I know you're not looking for advice, per say, but I hope you live somewhere where your sister no longer has access to your possessions, and I would suggest looking into maybe replacing your card (...she might have the information still) and looking into doing a credit freeze afterwards, since it sounds like your sister has a known track record and if she was to get ahold of your SSN, she could easily open up credit cards in your name that you wouldn't know about without a credit report. I would probably look into the Grey Rock Method, as well, and try to use it when and if you have to come into contact with your sister and any other related family drama... and I would probably look into investing into something like a Ring doorbell for added security. Even without all of the additional details... just remember, none of this is your fault. It's your sister doing xyz and she's the one intentionally doing the hurting. I really hope you'll be able to enjoy your hobby without the grim reminder of all of this, even if it's long down the road; it's really difficult when the people who are suppose to be your biggest advocates are anything but. 

Edited August 3 by Epona

8 hours ago, Epona said:

 

I'm really sorry you're going through this - this situation is rotten to its core, and it's far too common for families with toxic family members to try to make the reasonable person "shut up" and not rock the boat when they're being treated awful, because the "instigator" will kick up a huge fuss, as well as other dynamics that might be at play.

I know you're not looking for advice, per say, but I hope you live somewhere where your sister no longer has access to your possessions, and I would suggest looking into maybe replacing your card (...she might have the information still) and looking into doing a credit freeze afterwards, since it sounds like your sister has a known track record and if she was to get ahold of your SSN, she could easily open up credit cards in your name that you wouldn't know about without a credit report. I would probably look into the Grey Rock Method, as well, and try to use it when and if you have to come into contact with your sister and any other related family drama... and I would probably look into investing into something like a Ring doorbell for added security. Even without all of the additional details... just remember, none of this is your fault. It's your sister doing xyz and she's the one intentionally doing the hurting. I really hope you'll be able to enjoy your hobby without the grim reminder of all of this, even if it's long down the road; it's really difficult when the people who are suppose to be your biggest advocates are anything but. 

Unfortunately we are twins, so my SSN is only a digit different than hers and she can and HAS pretended to be me. I'm pretty sure she has a copy of my HS transcript, ID, etc, etc, so there isn't a lot I can do to actually protect myself. I'm looking into changing my SSN, but it would acquire a lot of work on student loans, banks, car note, and more. Seems easier to get married and do a name change, haha. 

And I have been looking into the Grey Rock Method...it doesn't really work. My sister gets bored and just makes up another big lie for everyone to be upset at me over.  My mom is a narcissist ( to a way lesser extent) as well and it's incredibly difficult to deal with them both. My brother, our brother, recently passed away and it just has...I feel like I've lost both my siblings* even though one is alive and well and lives less than 20min from where I work. The biggest issue is she has won, she's gotten Anya and gotten away with stealing thousands from me, but it isn't enough for her. Without saying too much, she is trying to frame me for defamation because I talked to her baby daddy ( he cosigned my car and I needed him to sign to take his name off lol). So now it's being said I'm trying to get into a relationship with him - she has gone so far as to offer the dude to NEVER have to pay child support ever if he will 'incriminate' me with false screenshots. I'm just trying to get through the next 10 months of school so I can leave this job and be away from all of it. I HAVE to work for my mom as it allows me to afford life AND pay for school out of pocket. I just need to make it the next year and I will be alright. The doll stuff really upset me because it's a hobby I introduced her to and thought it was incredible to share with her, but I never saw (up until now) how much of my money has gone to her and her dolls and how much I have suffered from it. I just have to be as small as possible and try to survive through this next year. Once the old dolls sell, I plan on buying new ones and ensuring no one ever takes advantage of me like that again. 

It may be petty, but I did blast her on facebook. That way if anyone sees her selling an Anya Volks, they know it's stolen. I used her actual name, the name she made up for herself, and her married last name. 

Also, thankfully, I live 3 hours from where I work and her terrible little car will not make that drive. So my stuff is safe. I put a dashcam in my car because she has keyed someone else's car and I will not be like that person and let her get away with it. 

*I have a half sibling I've never met that I speak with, but she tells everything to my twin so I have to be extremely careful with what's said. Easier said than done as I am trying to be a better older sibling than I was to my brother (survivors guilt, I know, it's a struggle to overcome).

Edited August 3 by Inolth