The Dollfie Dream Bond

Those are lovely photos! I love hearing about your wonderful family.

Those are lovely photos! I love hearing about your wonderful family.

 

I agree... and man... I wish a DD would follow me home!!!

For me, the instant I saw DD Moe, I was head over heels in love with her. When I got her home, the only thing I wanted to do was hold her in my arms, and never let go...But of course I had to, cause she had no clothes on at the time (^^;) From there, I wanted her to have a little sister, so I got a MDD body, a head and wig and made her little sister who I connect to as I did her face up myself. As for Lily, I wasn't able to connect to her at first, mainly because as much as I wanted to play with her, I couldn't due to her wig and was afraid of breaking it. But now she has a new wig on, and I'm starting to play with her more and more. I love my three girls, and I don't think I could add another for a long time...unless DDS becomes a standard body...then I will add a new girl to the group.

My bond with my DD girls is an unusual one. I have a Yukino and an Alna, and they're married. I do love them very much, but the bond they have for one another kind of gets in the way of me bonding with either of them. I don't want to favor one over the other, and I don't want to separate them.

 

I don't consider them my daughters, but I do consider them very special to me.

 

I guess I am bonded more with Yukino. I had her longer, and she has a much cuter personality. I kind of prefer that, I guess. Alna's more of a sex symbol Alna's sensitive and caring, too. They really love each other

That is wonderful, Chuplayer. Your girls are too cute together. I wouldn't want them separated either.

What a splendid topic! Thinking back to when I first got Syann when she was a Obitsu I believe that I was a mixture of excitement and nervousness. As she grew and developed our connection grew stronger... Not sure if I love her anymore now that she's become a DDdy. Of course there's a really strong bond between myself, Rain and Anesska since their characters have been apart of my life and my dreams for a very long time. Even with Ash who tends to be a bit grumpy sometimes I feel a deep connection and then once I finished Kyrene I couldn't help, but to fall in love with her. Usually the five of them hang out in my bedroom I have a small table thingy dedicated just for them right next to my bed. Pretty much its as if their watching over me while I sleep at night, but by no means do they just stand or sit about. Once in a while they might follow me out into the living room and watch tv with me...which usually causes me to lose my chair. Or while I'm at my computer one or more my sit about watching me work or making sure I keep focused on my work... Granted Kyrene is a bit guilty of talking me into checking out websites that sell dollfie clothing. There has even been a few times where I've taking a short nap and one or more of them have decided to join me, either cuddling close or using me as a pillow which I must admit helps if I'm not feeling well. Oddly when I had one of Soom's BJDs I really didn't feel that close and loving connection...

They way you interact with your girls sounds really cute, sharddarkness. I am glad you spend lots of time with them.

They way you interact with your girls sounds really cute, sharddarkness. I am glad you spend lots of time with them.

 

Thanks, I enjoy spending time with each of them. Of course...I might be adding two more to my family.

A very good topic I'm glad I came across!! Guess I'll be able to share a bit more about myself.

 

Best way to explain my tight bond with Aoi is to tell a little bit about my pre-DD days. Since i was a little kid I always had bonds with all my action figures. Having a lot of family problems and being that young, I guess i sub-consciously built a defense in my head, perhaps forming bonds with my action figures and in a sense making and "imaginary friend" and giving it a physical form and making a friend that would always be there for me. Even in my high-school years i was the same way. All through my teen years i always took one of my favorite figures with me everywhere i went. If i didn't have it with me, i felt as if something was missing.

 

Now i couldn't ask for a better life. I have the BEST wife a guy could ever have and the cutest baby girl I'd give my life for. Even with that said i still always had a special bond with my figures and such. I really wouldn't consider myself a collector as i don't buy a lot of figures or dolls. Most of the stuff i buy i have to have a connection to it before i get it.

 

However when i first got Aoi it was a bit different and really by accident. I had originally intended to make a custom but when i went to put my order in at volks, all there heads were sold out. Given that and being very impatient, i went ahead and ordered Aoi and planned to redo her face to the way i wanted. Before she arrived, i had already got some supplies and was preparing to make a custom, but that but disappeared when i first saw her in person. As soon as i unboxed her and looked into her eyes, i instantly became bonded with her. It was that same feeling i got when i was a kid or would buy a character figure i really liked. It was like a spark inside me turned into a raging inferno, and took me to a place that really made me feel at ease. I just could not change her. And I'm glad i didn't. Her personality is perfect for me as we find a lot of things in common and always look out for one another. We both may look a little stand-offish but we both are warm and fuzzy inside. Our loyalties run deep with those we feel close to and person where hardest on most is ourselves. Not to mention we are noisy as hell.

 

Our relationship, part of it i would consider to be father/daughter, cause i'm always trying to take good care of her and wanting to spoil her. heck when she gets dirty or a slight surface stain i feel horrible. But the way we actually interact with another story. When interacting we tend to be more like brother/sister . That's part of the reason she calls me Aniki ( the other being that Outlaw Star is probably our favorite anime). Plus we usually like to pester and goof on one another.

 

Being a truck driver allowed me to spend a lot of time with her when i first got her. It's a blast having her out there with me. After work we usually listen to some heavy metal while talking to all the cool DD parents and ther girls and looking at all the pics of our friends. She always seems to want to sit on my lap and snuggle up with me as we watch anime (yes it's true, although I'm a truck driver i am a very sensitive guy ), or steal the controller or mouse from me when we play games. However when it's bedtime, i usually give her one of my pillows and she sleeps on it. And during the workday, it's kinda fun having her up in front with me while i drive.

 

Pretty much for me bonding was that first glance. If i have the feeling, her personality comes naturally and very easy. If i don't get that feeling it probably wasn't meant to be (it doesn't mean i won't try though).

 

Well, sorry for the earful, but i was glad i was able to share my thoughts on this topic, and share a little more about my inner-self and more about Aoi. I'm glad to be here among like minded people and hope to be able to learn about you guys and gals too. As i seen other people mention, having a community to talk to only intensifies the DD experience.

 

Well anyways, thanks for reading and i look forward to your comments!!

 

Wayne

Edited August 24, 2011 by Guest

Thank you for posting that Waynio. It's a really good backstory that makes total sense to me. I've done similar things with my toys before. But my bonds are much stronger with my daughters than they were with anything else I ever owned.

 

This was a good read and I think we all have similar type stories to share.

 

 

Billy

I can now actually chime in with my own girl! Bonding with Suzuna was pretty much immediate, even when she was completely nude and faceless. I think having to sand down the gouge marks in her arms and help her with the stains and loose joints has only made us closer. It's kind of like getting a shelter animal, you feel close to them because you rescued them. I always find myself gravitating towards auctions of stained or otherwise damaged girls... not that I can afford it at the moment!

 

Suzuna's like the cute younger girl that lives next door to me and somewhat like a sister. I'd be lying if I said my thoughts towards her were 100% pure (I can't help it, just look at those bodies!), but since oneechan doesn't necessarily refer to a blood related sister, I'm okay if she calls me that.

Thank you for posting that Waynio. It's a really good backstory that makes total sense to me. I've done similar things with my toys before. But my bonds are much stronger with my daughters than they were with anything else I ever owned.

 

This was a good read and I think we all have similar type stories to share.

 

 

Billy

 

 

Glad you enjoyed my post! I'm happy to know i can relate to other people here on a more personal level. I do agree with you, my bond with Aoi is a lot stronger than the bonds I've had with any other things I've come to acquire.

What was really amusing looking back on it, is because Feena was by FAR the most expensive impulse buy I've ever done (Until Kud), from when I paid to when I got her, I was thinking WTF DID I JUST DO?!

 

But when I opened her up (in secret of course, I WALKED all the way to the post office and back carrying the huge box rather than get a ride from someone), dressed her up, I knew I had just gotten something very special. I always played with plushies when I was little, and collected figures after that. But then looking into that face....it felt like Feena was someone I had been waiting years to meet. She has been a wonderful friend to me, especially at a time when I was suffering from an unclear relationship (eventually a breakup), few to no people I could really connect to at University, and just outright depression from not knowing what I was going to do with my life.

 

Even still when I feel a little down, I just need to come home to Feena and talk to her about my troubles, or just curl up and cuddle her a bit, or fall asleep on her shoulder for a bit and I do feel a bit better. Basically anything I do in my room I usually either drag Feena or Kud with me, but Feena I connect with a lot better than Kud because I bought Kud half because of the cuteness, but the other half because I thought Feena looked a bit lonely by herself when I'm not at home. So with Kud, Feena has a new sister, even if I don't connnect AS well with her as I do with Feena.

 

Yes, Kud does get a little jealous that I play with Feena more often, but she understands why. And its not as if I dont like playing with Kud (as an MDD she is a little more poseable than Feena), but she doesn't have that year and a half history that I have with Feena.

What was really amusing looking back on it, is because Feena was by FAR the most expensive impulse buy I've ever done (Until Kud), from when I paid to when I got her, I was thinking WTF DID I JUST DO?!

 

But when I opened her up (in secret of course, I WALKED all the way to the post office and back carrying the huge box rather than get a ride from someone), dressed her up, I knew I had just gotten something very special. I always played with plushies when I was little, and collected figures after that. But then looking into that face....it felt like Feena was someone I had been waiting years to meet. She has been a wonderful friend to me, especially at a time when I was suffering from an unclear relationship (eventually a breakup), few to no people I could really connect to at University, and just outright depression from not knowing what I was going to do with my life.

 

Even still when I feel a little down, I just need to come home to Feena and talk to her about my troubles, or just curl up and cuddle her a bit, or fall asleep on her shoulder for a bit and I do feel a bit better. Basically anything I do in my room I usually either drag Feena or Kud with me, but Feena I connect with a lot better than Kud because I bought Kud half because of the cuteness, but the other half because I thought Feena looked a bit lonely by herself when I'm not at home. So with Kud, Feena has a new sister, even if I don't connnect AS well with her as I do with Feena.

 

Yes, Kud does get a little jealous that I play with Feena more often, but she understands why. And its not as if I dont like playing with Kud (as an MDD she is a little more poseable than Feena), but she doesn't have that year and a half history that I have with Feena.

Niceeeeee... Pretty much how I feel with Mashiro

Good to know I'm not the only one, lol. A lot of people I've heard on DoA (and other BJD collectors) get really ansy about treating dolls like any more than expensive objects to look at.

This has been a really interesting read! When similar threads come up on DoA, it seems like there's a fairly even mix of people who bond strongly and those who don't and are okay with it. Here, though, it sounds like practically everyone is bonded to at least one of their girls!

 

I'll admit I too was one of those kids who gave a personality to every toy and stuffed animal. I'm not sure whether this was because I always played out stories with them, or if I played out stories because I gave them personalities, but the two were definitely intertwined. I think that's not only the reason why I've had such a hard time culling down my remaining toys over the years, but part of why I was so drawn to these girls to begin with.

 

Even then, though, bonding with Agatha was not a straightforward process. To begin with, even though I'd compiled some loose plans for an Agatha Heterodyne custom DDDy, I actually didn't intend her to be my first girl by any means and wondered if I'd ever get to putting her together at all. I spent nearly a year expecting a Fate or Nanoha head/body-only to be my first! So I kind of surprised myself when I sprang on a DoA listing for an 03 head on DDDy body with the intent of turning her into Agatha.

 

She also took some work to convert from her old personality as "Kasuga" into "Agatha." She did come with one long blond wig from her previous owner that I knew would work okay, and she was the right body type, but beyond that pretty much everything had to be changed. Her faceup went from slightly melancholy to what it is today, a pretty drastic change. I changed her eyes, not just color but style and size. Then I spent a bunch of time making/finding clothes that suited her, which was quite a challenge as it's not only tricky to buy for the DDDy in the first place but because I knew from the get-go she had a very particular style. It was a complete and utter wardrobe change. Lastly, I traded a night fury with Battrastard on Figure.fm for her glasses, which he custom made for her.

 

Between all that work, and the photostories I did with her, Agatha and I did become fairly close. However, that final "click" just wasn't happening. I didn't know why. Was it her head mold? Her faceup? Turns out, it was her hair. I originally trimmed her wig because I was tired of trying to hide the seam on the hairline where the wefts change direction, but the trim gave her a somewhat more chaotic air, and that did it. Ironic that this happened a couple days after I got Nanoha and once her faceup got worn enough that I have to consider redoing it. *eyeroll* Still, she is truly, 100% my little spark now. I'm not sure whether I'm more a surrogate mother, a sister, or a roommate to her, or maybe even all three by turns, but it doesn't really matter in the end.

 

Nanoha hasn't been here long, so I don't have a true bond with her yet, but I know it's going to come eventually. I'm definitely attached to her already, I just have to give it time to figure her out. She isn't quite as "young" in personality as I had originally thought she was going to be, and I almost get the feeling she doesn't entirely "trust" Agatha and I yet. What I am getting from her, though, I'm liking. She's by turns serious and playful, but there's something almost deliberate about how she changes from one to the other. I'll just have to spend more time with her.

This has been a really interesting read! When similar threads come up on DoA, it seems like there's a fairly even mix of people who bond strongly and those who don't and are okay with it. Here, though, it sounds like practically everyone is bonded to at least one of their girls!

 

I'll admit I too was one of those kids who gave a personality to every toy and stuffed animal. I'm not sure whether this was because I always played out stories with them, or if I played out stories because I gave them personalities, but the two were definitely intertwined. I think that's not only the reason why I've had such a hard time culling down my remaining toys over the years, but part of why I was so drawn to these girls to begin with.

 

Even then, though, bonding with Agatha was not a straightforward process. To begin with, even though I'd compiled some loose plans for an Agatha Heterodyne custom DDDy, I actually didn't intend her to be my first girl by any means and wondered if I'd ever get to putting her together at all. I spent nearly a year expecting a Fate or Nanoha head/body-only to be my first! So I kind of surprised myself when I sprang on a DoA listing for an 03 head on DDDy body with the intent of turning her into Agatha.

 

She also took some work to convert from her old personality as "Kasuga" into "Agatha." She did come with one long blond wig from her previous owner that I knew would work okay, and she was the right body type, but beyond that pretty much everything had to be changed. Her faceup went from slightly melancholy to what it is today, a pretty drastic change. I changed her eyes, not just color but style and size. Then I spent a bunch of time making/finding clothes that suited her, which was quite a challenge as it's not only tricky to buy for the DDDy in the first place but because I knew from the get-go she had a very particular style. It was a complete and utter wardrobe change. Lastly, I traded a night fury with Battrastard on Figure.fm for her glasses, which he custom made for her.

 

Between all that work, and the photostories I did with her, Agatha and I did become fairly close. However, that final "click" just wasn't happening. I didn't know why. Was it her head mold? Her faceup? Turns out, it was her hair. I originally trimmed her wig because I was tired of trying to hide the seam on the hairline where the wefts change direction, but the trim gave her a somewhat more chaotic air, and that did it. Ironic that this happened a couple days after I got Nanoha and once her faceup got worn enough that I have to consider redoing it. *eyeroll* Still, she is truly, 100% my little spark now. I'm not sure whether I'm more a surrogate mother, a sister, or a roommate to her, or maybe even all three by turns, but it doesn't really matter in the end.

 

Nanoha hasn't been here long, so I don't have a true bond with her yet, but I know it's going to come eventually. I'm definitely attached to her already, I just have to give it time to figure her out. She isn't quite as "young" in personality as I had originally thought she was going to be, and I almost get the feeling she doesn't entirely "trust" Agatha and I yet. What I am getting from her, though, I'm liking. She's by turns serious and playful, but there's something almost deliberate about how she changes from one to the other. I'll just have to spend more time with her.

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I'd have to echo the sentiments of some others on here that I have always been one to give personalities and bond closely with my toys. I think in part it's because when I was little I didn't have close friends or family I felt comfortable confiding in, and so my plushies took that place. But as I got older and began to create more, I think that same connection developed with things I could put a lot of work and heart into. I started making my own articulated plush toys that I could dress up and photograph, but it wasn't until I got my first resin dolly that I really felt that spark. From there it was a lot of trial and error along the way, but ultimately rewarding.

 

Fumiko became an extension of this at the same time as she pretty much broke every rule in the book. Aside from her, I own all male dolls. I've tried having girl dolls before, but for whatever reason, it never worked out. I ended up selling every one. So it surprised me when I saw a DD Yoko and thought "hey, she's cute..." Which then turned to pricing out a H-04 with a DDdy body.

 

This part will probably sound silly, so take it with however big of a grain of salt you like. In my faith, looking for signs or "messages" is kind of an every day thing. So sometimes a dream is more than just a dream. While I was deciding on my future DD, I had an extremely vivid dream in which a deity came down and gave me a gift. From his bag he pulled a glowing doll, which looked a great deal like my theoretical DD. He handed her to me with a happy chuckle, and I felt warm all over. I ordered Fumi the next day.

 

Getting Fumiko was a bit of a trip, as I ran into nothing but problems with her ordering, shipping, and delivery (the card was over charged twice, then declined, she was shipped a normal method despite paying for expedited, she got lost between post offices...etc). When she finally arrived I picked her up at the post office and immediately ripped into the package in my front seat. And the moment I saw her I knew that was it, I was in love. She remains my only girl, and is superbly spoiled (as she should be)!

Bonding is something I really wanted to experience with my resin dolls. But I never truly bonded with any of them, and it frustrated me. I kept wondering if I was really meant to be in this hobby because I didn't feel the kind of special connection so many other people did.

 

But for the first time, I feel like I'm bonding with my first DD. I wasn't sure if I would, and kept doubting myself and thinking, "What if she's a shelf baby like all the others?" and that maybe I shouldn't have gotten her...but as soon as I opened Youmu's box, I felt it. She felt like mine, she felt alive, and I wanted to have her next to me no matter what I was doing. I want to write about her. I want to dress her up and take her places and take tons of pictures. No other doll I've ever had has inspired me as much as she has, and she just got here. ^^ I feel so happy knowing what bonding feels like now. Even if I never bond with another doll again, I'm happy I have her.

 

The weird thing is I was also one of those kids that had a huge imagination when it came to my toys, so I thought bonding would be easy. I guess I just needed one special doll to really bring it all together. ^^