Figure.fm post

Hello! If anyone wants the true side of the figure.fm posts then I will be more than happy to oblige through PM. I still have all the insulting rude messages from months ago from the user who posted it.

And also yes. To me DD's are like Pokemon, I gotta catch them all! I love them so much and I want to get every girl I love! But if when they arrive I don't bond I will sell them on. Just because I don't post lots of pictures of them doesn't mean I don't take them out or take them, I just recieved a new camera to take better pictures of my girls!!

I don't think you should tell publicly to us your point of view.

I guess that everybody have thier own point of you regarding you and everythin else. (I mean, it's not a 'hating' post that makes any bigger difference).

I think that the author of that post on Ffm ha been extremely childish and rude explaining his point of view.

As for me, I think that if someone has problems with someone else, it's his/her own problem to solve them with the interested part.

Not that 'You disappointed me, I feel antipathy for you' means necessarily 'I tell everybody how bad you are', especially if there was no real shopping experience between you two.

You should just reply to him if you feel so, in private, or in the post as your last resource.

If he keep being rude, contact Danny and ask for the post to be removed.

The post has been removed right? I would rather tell everyone my point of view than people believe lies.

I don't know what happend, but figure fm can be a horrible place. That's why I never go there anymore.

Just wondering... why not just post it here if you're willing to explain to anyone who wants to PM?

 

Edit: I'm asking as someone who didn't see the initial figure.fm post and am now just kind of confused.

Edited January 29, 2013 by Guest

Because I don't want the person to comment here and flame it.

Honestly, from watching many different posts blowup over the years on Bad Dolly Deals, I think the best thing you can do when someone posts a personal attack against you is to put yourself far above the mess. Don't get upset, don't get defensive, and don't make it personal. Just treat the matter with total indifference, as if it matters so little to do you that you really can't even be bothered to spare more than a second of your precious time on it. "Oh, hmm, yes that wasn't very nice. Now isn't this a cute outfit?" "Hmm yes, that was a weird post. What do you think of this wig?" "It's too bad he/she felt that way. Have you seen the new Volks collection?"

 

The more attention you focus on it, the more fuel you add to the fire. If "that person" feels like they got a reaction out of you, then they have all the more reason to keep making personal attacks and spreading drama. But it's really hard for "that person" to fight when you won't pay them any attention. The calmer and more professional you are, the more out-of-line and disrespectful "that person" will seem.

 

And I'd recommend against addressing things via PM. Secrecy is a extremely powerful drama-fuel, especially if "that person" feels like you're gossiping about them via PM. They will feel justified ("See, she's as awful as I said she was, she's talking about me behind my back!") and will be even more likely to lash out at you in the future.

This is a very fair point and I should definitely listen to it >_< I just hate that someone is spreading malicious lies >_< but heck everyone is going to believe what they want I suppose :/

 

Honestly, from watching many different posts blowup over the years on Bad Dolly Deals, I think the best thing you can do when someone posts a personal attack against you is to put yourself far above the mess. Don't get upset, don't get defensive, and don't make it personal. Just treat the matter with total indifference, as if it matters so little to do you that you really can't even be bothered to spare more than a second of your precious time on it. "Oh, hmm, yes that wasn't very nice. Now isn't this a cute outfit?" "Hmm yes, that was a weird post. What do you think of this wig?" "It's too bad he/she felt that way. Have you seen the new Volks collection?"

 

The more attention you focus on it, the more fuel you add to the fire. If "that person" feels like they got a reaction out of you, then they have all the more reason to keep making personal attacks and spreading drama. But it's really hard for "that person" to fight when you won't pay them any attention. The calmer and more professional you are, the more out-of-line and disrespectful "that person" will seem.

 

And I'd recommend against addressing things via PM. Secrecy is a extremely powerful drama-fuel, especially if "that person" feels like you're gossiping about them via PM. They will feel justified ("See, she's as awful as I said she was, she's talking about me behind my back!") and will be even more likely to lash out at you in the future.

The post looks like just hidden, but still existing.

I am going to lock this post for the time being.

 

To me, this seems like a post that should be made on figure.fm, since that is where this incident happened.

 

It's obvious from the responses to this thread that people here have not seen the post in question.

Myself included!

 

I wish you luck... and I agree with the advice that has been given.