Doll collecting is "depraved?"

"Oh, you don't like REAL women" or "You CAN'T get a real women"

 

This is actually a fairly common comment I've gotten regarding both genders (cause I swing both ways) and honestly I don't get why that's the assumption. I'm sorry that my doll is anatomically correct and even without maybe knowing that factor you think that apparently I must have zero interest in a real physical relationship with another human being.

 

Though I admit, I've met a few people who have actually taken their dolls as something to represent the closest to a wife or husband, which is usually brought on because they have so many social anxieties and/or have had so many trouble with relationships that they chose to at least have an outlet for those desires. At least the chances of them getting in yet another abusive relationship is pretty much impossible, but it is definitely not something someone could easily understand.

 

Beside that point, I question the person who has to immediately come to that thought. In some sort of unconscious thought they must have seen our dolls as sexy, right? To assume that we are interested in them on a sexual level? Maybe it is just me that thinks that, but I always wondered if possibly if that's what they think they represent to us, that means they must have thought along those lines even if only for a second. Doesn't mean they have interest though.

 

I've mentioned this before but I choose to live vicariously through my dolls, so whatever lives or how they dress are all desires I have that I can't pursue, or have yet gotten the chance too. While they may not represent a lover, a child, or whatever you wish to see them as, they instead represent every small desire I want. The reason I never share back-stories about a lot of my dolls is because that would be looking a little too much into my inner desires and wants. I know I'm honest and open, but no thank you.

 

I think these sort of thoughts though may lead to the whole idea of deprivation among outsiders of the hobby, and maybe even inside. It is hard to understand either choosing to represent wanted desire or individual through something that is inanimate such as a doll.

 

Gunter, we all support you. I know I support you even if you don't have a single DD. It doesn't change that you are a fun and creative, compassionate and empathic person. I am cheering for you and all the other wonderful people who bravely described their challenges in life. You guys are great.

 

And I appreciate every bit of that support, and I know I may come off like a jerk sometimes on the forum (I'm honest to a fault) but I think every single person deserve full support no matter what your life or hobbies are like. <3

 

On another note, I think that people who feel the need to judge people based on their hobbies are shallow and not worth much time. If you think a hobby represents them for who they are, then that's not really an appropriate assessment of anyone. While maybe they do make a big impact in that individuals life it doesn't have to necessarily rule it or be their one defining point.

Humans are nothing but layers and layers, and their hobbies is just one of the many layers.

I think somebody who doesn't collect dolls would take off the clothes if you mentioned them being anatomically correct, or if they were inclined to think so.

 

I haven't exactly been pinned as a pervert for owning dolls, but I have been treated like someone with a mental disability several times. I used to sew for one of my dolls, so I would bring her to the fabric store with me to check the scale and color of certain prints, until a middle-aged woman gave me a look of "you poor thing" and asked if it was my baby. She asked my brother if I had some sort of illness and we just stared at her awkwardly for a couple seconds until I just said "No...I just sew clothes for dolls."

 

I used to carry a doll around with me to check scale on things, or just because I felt like it, but after so many incidents of people asking you have such-and-such or if it's for whatever type of coping therapy it just isn't fun anymore. There were plenty of people who thought she was cool and wanted to learn more, but eventually I just got tired of being judged either way for it.

I used to carry a doll around with me to check scale on things, or just because I felt like it, but after so many incidents of people asking you have such-and-such or if it's for whatever type of coping therapy it just isn't fun anymore. There were plenty of people who thought she was cool and wanted to learn more, but eventually I just got tired of being judged either way for it.

 

There are some nice things about being "old." I had one of my girls with me at Walmart for 'sizing' of some things I was thinking about buying and instead of looking at me weird or offering judgement, I heard two women (probably in their mid-twenties or so) make the comment "Oh look! They brought their granddaugher's doll with them to buy some stuff! Bet they are Christmas shopping! Isn't that doll cute!!" My husband and I just smiled and kept right on walking!