First Date: Would you tell a first date about your dolls?

It's much harder for a guy to say "oh yeah, I collect giant dolls and buy outfits for them, yada yada".

You're probably right

 

*I'm a guy*

 

I wouldn't bring it up on a first date, but sooner than later is better. I haven't sent any women running away screaming due to my dolls, but I'm a little afraid of it happening sometimes.

I don't think I'd bring it up on a first date, or very quickly after that either. Not that I'm embarrassed about dolls, but I don't think they'd be a very big deal (then again, I'm a girl). I'm sure that if I was on a date with someone who also liked anime I'd probably bring it up then, along with figures, but other than that, nope!

I would, but then again "proper social ques" don't make much sense to me. The subject actually helps me to open up and talk with people about things instead of my more normal response of hiding in a corner/shadowy spot where I'm able to relax without people noticing my existence. Shy to a fault with Social Anxiety Disorder as icing on the cake, so I don't get around to even meeting people to "date", but I'm open to the idea.

 

Meeting/dating someone who's into similar hobbies would be awesome, but I've yet to even meet a girl in person who's into dolls/photography/anime/games. Maybe when I get around to going to art/photography school?

Don't you also just gotta be not creepy about it? Like you don't have to sugarcoat things, but there are ways to present unique topics in ways that are potentially not as terrible as it could be, haha.

I think it would be easier to explain your hobby if you had pictures of your dolls or tested the water by introducing a 'friend' who has an 'interesting' hobby how would said person feel about it? But thee first date is usually used for getting to know the other person. And the subsequent dates after that fill in that gap of the lack of knowledge you have. If a person asked me about my hobby, I would tell them. Just not about my bigger girls, they're about life sized. I think that would be something I would show later on in person.

I probably found the very rare females but each girlfriend in Japan I brought back to my apartment saw a lot more than Dolls (dakimakura, ero-bedsheets covering the wall, figures, etc) and all of them were surprised but didn't really care. They actually liked it. Most of them have their own secrets in their room.....like my wife and her 100+ barbies!

 

On to the topic of first date, if they asked my hobbies, I told them. If not, I didn't. ^^

If we get talking about collections or interests I would mention it on a first date. There are a lot worse things out there then collecting dolls and if that one fact was enough to kill my chances then I doubt we'd last anyway. One of my main requirements in a partner is that they support me in my interests... they don't gotta understand but if they looked down on them then we wouldn't work. I imagine its harder when your a guy, though.

I agree with chien. There's ways to put things so they don't sound "weird". I'm new to this world, but I do heavily collect figures, as well as cosplay and I definitely have a ton of eroge, hentai pillows etc.. I find honestly I just don't go around telling everyone about all my hobbies and fangirling unless they seem interested as well. To me its similar to someone coming to me and going on and on about soccer or something that I'm not really interested in. I might be kind of weirded out too in that situation. But if people "find out" or ask about my stranger hobbies then I just act confident and tell them about it very matter of factly and then move on. Confidence and the way you speak/hold yourself can be everything.

If we get talking about collections or interests I would mention it on a first date. There are a lot worse things out there then collecting dolls and if that one fact was enough to kill my chances then I doubt we'd last anyway. One of my main requirements in a partner is that they support me in my interests... they don't gotta understand but if they looked down on them then we wouldn't work. I imagine its harder when your a guy, though.

 

Totally agree. I could never see myself with someone who didn't support me in things that make me happy either. Would be very strange. I guess I can't picture it because I've been with someone who does support me for quite a while now.

 

Though, I'm on the side that prefers to date someone I've been friends with first anyway, so they'd already know my interests by the time a first date rolled around.

A number of stories in this thread strike me as a little unusual... but maybe I just don't know anything about the dating scene. I'd only go on a date with somebody I shared similar interests with, so it shouldn't be an issue were it brought up. However, seeing as I am a cripple, living in a small town, I'm incredibly unlikely to ever meet somebody in to Japanese/anime culture and gaming, so it's not something I spend time thinking about.

If we get on the topic of hobbies I so would because dolls are awesome and I love talking about them. Probably to much sometimes lol

I didn't get in to dolls (well officially, I've always been interested in them) until after I met my fiance. I did have a TON of other hobbies though, one of them is toy collecting. They came up immediately and he got excited about it. Knew he was a keeper :3 I'm not ashamed by my hobbies at all because I love them the most and they make me who I am. Call me weird, call me eccentric - all great things. People's opinions never deter me and ESPECIALLY the opinion of someone I'm interested in. Because how could I date someone who dislikes what I love so much?

 

I think if I had to do it all over again I would still just be like HEY! LOOK AT MY DOLLS! But you know... in a more diplomatic, friendly way for people who aren't so exposed to the hobby.

Just chipping in my 2 cents to say that I don't know if it's because I'm getting older or what but my opinion is it's not worth spending time with a date if he/she is not open to accepting your hobbies esp. with something as fun, cute, and creative as dolls. Don't compromise on who you are for the sake of companionship. It's better to be single than be with the wrong person

 

I wouldn't mind bringing up dolls on a first date if the subject of hobbies happened to come up. I'd probably talk about it if the subject came up and I was thinking well, time to test the waters to see if this guy is accepting of my hobbies or not I guess part of my mentality is I just don't want to waste time getting to know a guy on a date if he's not accepting of my hobbies and who I am.

 

For a guy I'm sure that this is harder subject though so maybe holding off until you know your date better is good but you also don't want to waste a lot of time going on lots of dates and then having your doll hobby be a deal breaker for her. So I'd say - say something sooner rather than later but don't wait too long!

I would say definitely not for at least a couple weeks, or if they came over Id make sure I had only 1 visible with a decent outfit on in case they happen to notice it, lol. Not that I am ashamed of it but if someone is that new to meeting you maybe that would be a little too weird at first. Unless of course they are heavily into anime and/or figures then it wouldnt be a big deal probably.

 

I will tell my friends about it no problem and I know some of them think its weird but I dont even care cause were friends already and we share other interests. But I was buying fabric the other day at Joanns and they ask you what are you making when you get fabric cut, and I froze and was like 'ummmmm.... (awkward pause) its for accessories...) I was buying some trim that was gonna be a skirt for my girl haha.

I would do it if the conversation switches to hobbies. Since my only hobbies are dolls and reading, I have no reason deny it, in fact, I would be very excited to share my hobby with them.

 

These dolls are a part of myself so they either accept them or go look for another person to go on dates with. lol

 

By the way, I'm asexual so this 'date' thing will never happen.

Unless if I had met my first date through anime/manga (otaku) culture I wouldn't tell.

 

Any success stories about people telling their SO about their dolls?

 

--F

Unless if I had met my first date through anime/manga (otaku) culture I wouldn't tell.

 

Any success stories about people telling their SO about their dolls?

 

--F

 

Not sure if I'd say success story, it was just sort of another day for me and the SO. It pretty much just went;

 

"So you know how I totally love Kaito? I'm gonna make a Kaito doll. They're anime styled and sorta like really large figma so it won't creep you out." (My boyfriend is slightly scared of certain kinds of dolls. I didn't want him to get the wrong idea of what I meant by "doll")

 

"Okay, cool. Have fun."

 

And then I did.

 

The only conditions are that I don't keep blank and eyeless heads out and about when he's over at my place and that I don't turn Kaito's head all the way around or something.

 

Which is fine. Those things would creep me out a little too and I'm a doll person!

Unless if I had met my first date through anime/manga (otaku) culture I wouldn't tell.

 

Any success stories about people telling their SO about their dolls?

 

--F

 

Not sure if I'd say success story, it was just sort of another day for me and the SO. It pretty much just went;

 

"So you know how I totally love Kaito? I'm gonna make a Kaito doll. They're anime styled and sorta like really large figma so it won't creep you out." (My boyfriend is slightly scared of certain kinds of dolls. I didn't want him to get the wrong idea of what I meant by "doll")

 

"Okay, cool. Have fun."

 

And then I did.

 

The only conditions are that I don't keep blank and eyeless heads out and about when he's over at my place and that I don't turn Kaito's head all the way around or something.

 

Which is fine. Those things would creep me out a little too and I'm a doll person!

 

It's the same for my husband and I. :c He came before the dolls did so he gets a little more say than the average SO I suppose. I have porcelain dolls as well and those freak him out so much I'm not allowed to have them out. The DDs are a good compromise. I always warn him when I'm about to do something weird and he shouldn't look over at what I'm doing.

Minuette, that DOES sound like a good compromise!!

 

I do tend to bring up my dolls pretty quickly on first dates, because I don't want to waste time with guys who are terrified of dolls. My dolls are very important to me, and I won't be getting rid of them just to make some guy happy. After all, the dolls were here first!

 

When I was still married, my husband and I had separate interests and spent some time doing our own things. I had respect for his hobbies and he had respect for mine. If I was seeing someone seriously, I would want it to be the same way. We would have to have SOME things in common, but not necessarily everything!

 

Several members here have said that they usually date people they have been friends with first, and who knew about their doll hobby ahead of time. That sounds ideal to me!

 

Linda S.

galatia9

dont think i was indo bjds when my bf and i started to date though i was looking:P

Yea probably best not to mention it on a first date, unless you know before hand. Again unless she has some dd's.

I got into DDs a few months after I started dating my boyfriend. He found out about it pretty quickly after I bought my first doll and was cool with it.

 

On the other hand, I don't think it'd be a first date topic for me. Most of my friends don't know I collect dolls, and neither does my family. I'm not hugely into anime/manga (altho I am into JRPGs), so I think it would be a surprise to some of the people who know me.