A Dollfie Dream Falling Out/Not Bonding?

I only have one DD that I adore, but I've had this problem so many times with resin heads and even my Obitsu 50. I wish I didn't have such strong animistic feelings toward things, but when I plan to sell someone I feel it's kind of like a breakup with a significant other that you know has to happen, even if you aren't quite ready for it to happen. If you find it's not working out and you are afraid of disappointing her, then it helps to have a discussion with her and lay out the issues you are having. Tell her you hope her new person will give her the love you should have had for her, and then try to sell her to someone who might do so. Don't waffle because you feel terrible, it makes the eventual outcome harder.

 

For every resin head I've sold, I've had to trust that eventually that doll would find a spot where it would be happy. Some people have sold off the doll right after. But a lot of times I'll see the doll again in a picture or even in person and it makes me happy to see someone enjoying it after all. Down the line, you might find you have regrets and then you can buy her back, but a lot of time it will be refreshing to have done the deed. It's also nice to have the extra money to use toward doting on the dolls you do love. If you truly feel like you can't adore her, you'll both be happier in the end.

Arienette said:

If you've already bonded with Miu, without her having any faceup then I think that you should probably sell your Alna like you want to. Since you bonded so quickly with Miu, I think that means you really have a strong attraction to her head mold which is good... And since that didn't happen with Alna, even though she has a faceup, maybe that is a warning sign showing that there isn't a strong bond.

 

Most people seem to feel that the doll should be completed before fully deciding, myself included, but it seems you feel really strongly about selling her so that's what you should do. If you are hesitant, then just sit on it for a while. I understand not wanting to invest in a body, especially since I read you want your Miu to be a MDD, and I don't think that's what you wanted for your Alna. I am guessing you wanted different bodies, so it's not like you could buy a body for Miu and then test on Alna. >__<

 

If you do decide to sell Alna, that'd be money to go towards fixing up your Miu and getting her a body. It could end up being a good thing... Alna will go to another home, and your Miu will be complete! Either way I hope you do not feel too bad about it, I think that dolls are special and I understand the remorse you may feel... But it will be okay, no matter what you decide to do. I'm looking forward to seeing how your Miu ends up.

I couldn't test Miu's (future) body on Alna even if it wasn't a MDD. My Alna is a WS and Miu is definitely a NS. Haha, so it wouldn't have worked either way. I thought Miu was really dirty when I got her but nope, she is just tan compared to my Alna XDD (and yeah, I wanted a different body for my Alna. I wanted her to be a DD with an L bust before).

I did spark an idea for Alna today but when I got home and got a closer look at her face, I knew it wouldn't have worked to my liking because of how her sculpt is so yeah…Alna's probably going to have to go. In my mind I feel like I'm being selfish just holding her here and not being able to find any kind of way to dress her up that I would like whatsoever…): Someone might enjoy her waaay more than I and I would be so happy to find an owner like that~

Oh, and I think I bonded with Miu real fast because I got to take most of the nasty face-up that the previous owner had severely messed up on and I finally got to see her true face (with faded eyebrows and such since I couldn't get it to come off fully, but that's okay since she's going to a face-up artist soon). I worked on her for an hour or two in the morning on the Saturday and Sunday after I got her. ^^ I think that's another reason why we bonded. She's basically my project doll that I want to make beeeeautiful. :3

Suiseiseki4life said:

There is also people like me who really bonded but emergencies came up. Some could be just unwanted bill, personal health or sick pet. I really like the hobby and I like my custom doll I did, it's just my 8 year old rabbit hasn't been doing so good these past few months. I know once everything settles down and finances return, so shall I. I do feel guilty since she was the only thing that really has sold compared to figures that were worth similar prices. Though that's what growing up is about...losing your things you love for responsibilities or in this case other life that you love. My dollfie will always exist in my head and my heart so I know one day she will return (thinking of it as a summer vacation)

 

I'd say regarding to your situation don't feel guilty either way, just think of it as if you sell her she can always come back from "her vacation". Or maybe you will be able to bring some less fortunate girl to your home in the future or give extra stuff to your other girl. I'm sure either way it's best to do with what makes you feel happiest. But feeling too guilty about it can cause you other problems too (i.e. health), just remember to send warm wishes and happy thoughts with her if you do sell her.

Thank you so much Suiseuiseki. 🙂 I saw your doll in the marketplace. It looked like you put a lot of love and hard work into her. I'm so sorry that you are had to sell her. I hope one day you can bring her back.

But I respect you that you could do that and still go on! Kind of motivates me to finally make up my dang gone mind about Alna~

It's just hard. Maybe I'm just holding onto something that shouldn't be. Or I'm just being selfish…*shrugs*

I think for the best though I should sell her, no matter how beautiful I think she is. Her outfits and everything wouldn't go anywhere for me and I can't afford to spend willy nilly to find a miracle outfit that I like on her. XDDD Miu seems to be more agreeable so far. But, we'll see more about her later~ x3 I think she might be a handful but a mighty cute one! ^w^

Aile said:

Happened to me once with Milhi. I actually DID like her at first, but over time it died down and I realized that I can't really bond with her as much as I wanted to and can't seem to find a style that I liked , so I ended up trading her for a Rise instead

Awh~ I'm actually thinking about possibly getting a DDS Millhi in the future. But I'm looking at a lot of photos of her and everything so I don't make the same mistake as I did with Alna, of course.

Do you think the trade was worth it in the end? O: Did you enjoy your new Rise, if I may ask? :3

Coco said:

I only have one DD that I adore, but I've had this problem so many times with resin heads and even my Obitsu 50. I wish I didn't have such strong animistic feelings toward things, but when I plan to sell someone I feel it's kind of like a breakup with a significant other that you know has to happen, even if you aren't quite ready for it to happen. If you find it's not working out and you are afraid of disappointing her, then it helps to have a discussion with her and lay out the issues you are having. Tell her you hope her new person will give her the love you should have had for her, and then try to sell her to someone who might do so. Don't waffle because you feel terrible, it makes the eventual outcome harder.

 

For every resin head I've sold, I've had to trust that eventually that doll would find a spot where it would be happy. Some people have sold off the doll right after. But a lot of times I'll see the doll again in a picture or even in person and it makes me happy to see someone enjoying it after all. Down the line, you might find you have regrets and then you can buy her back, but a lot of time it will be refreshing to have done the deed. It's also nice to have the extra money to use toward doting on the dolls you do love. If you truly feel like you can't adore her, you'll both be happier in the end.

It just feels so hard, especially since she is my first doll. I feel like a part of me is forced to keep her since she is… 😧 It might just be me being selfish though…which I hate to admit but it might be that too.

I'm probably going to sell her, I just got to talk to her maybe tomorrow night, get some feelings out when my dad is gone (I only live with my dad but yeah). He'd be weirded out by me randomly talking in my room to a doll head (people around here wouldn't understand. Aha). So, hopefully I can get that chance and I can go from there~ 🙂

Thank you for your support. It truly does help.

Edited March 21, 2019 by Pickle

Thank you so much Suiseuiseki. (: I saw your doll in the marketplace. It looked like you put a lot of love and hard work into her. I'm so sorry that you are had to sell her. I hope one day you can bring her back.

But I respect you that you could do that and still go on! Kind of motivates me to finally make up my dang gone mind about Alna~

 

It's just hard. Maybe I'm just holding onto something that shouldn't be. Or I'm just being selfish…*shrugs*

I think for the best though I should sell her, no matter how beautiful I think she is. Her outfits and everything wouldn't go anywhere for me and I can't afford to spend willy nilly to find a miracle outfit that I like on her. XDDD Miu seems to be more agreeable so far. But, we'll see more about her later~ x3 I think she might be a handful but a mighty cute one! ^w^

 

Yeah she will be helping my bunny out, I just hope he rnew owner cares for her as much as I do. Going on is hard like trying to move with only one leg but i am sure eventually stuff will settle and I can bring her back to life again.

 

Who knows maybe you'll win the lotto and can give them a luxurious life together

Suiseiseki4life said:

Pickle said:

Thank you so much Suiseuiseki. 🙂 I saw your doll in the marketplace. It looked like you put a lot of love and hard work into her. I'm so sorry that you are had to sell her. I hope one day you can bring her back.

But I respect you that you could do that and still go on! Kind of motivates me to finally make up my dang gone mind about Alna~

 

It's just hard. Maybe I'm just holding onto something that shouldn't be. Or I'm just being selfish…*shrugs*

I think for the best though I should sell her, no matter how beautiful I think she is. Her outfits and everything wouldn't go anywhere for me and I can't afford to spend willy nilly to find a miracle outfit that I like on her. XDDD Miu seems to be more agreeable so far. But, we'll see more about her later~ x3 I think she might be a handful but a mighty cute one! ^w^

 

Yeah she will be helping my bunny out, I just hope he rnew owner cares for her as much as I do. Going on is hard like trying to move with only one leg but i am sure eventually stuff will settle and I can bring her back to life again.

 

Who knows maybe you'll win the lotto and can give them a luxurious life together

Hahaha, I doubt that. I'm not a gambler, in any way shape or form. It's a nice thought though but I'd still really doubt I could bond with Alna. It'd be a miracle, in my opinion. She is a beauty but, maybe she is too mature for me? I'm not entirely sure what it is that makes me uncomfortable, I just know there are many possibilities as to why. *sigh*

I wish you the best with having things settle down in your life though. I really do. And man, only one leg. D8 Hope your bunny feels better and gets better! : D

Edited March 21, 2019 by Pickle

I am in the same boat with Sister Kyoya and Baldylox in how we feel about our girls. I understand mentally that they are objects and not real people. But for me, each one has her ('his' for Hayate) personality and they touch my heart and make me happy. Those personalities are all sides of myself, too. Most are inspired by my favorite anime characters combined with my own twist. I never had real girls of my own (only a son) so it is fun to spoil and dress them up like I would have a daughter.

 

My husband also collects so combined in the H&M House of Vinyl we currently have 104 girls (well...103 girls and 1 boy - 3 of these are currently floating heads, but they already have claimed their characters). In our house, dollies only come in, they don't leave. I don't have trouble bonding. I have certain favorites, but I have never not bonded. I have had plans for a girl and then the character just not fit, so she becomes who she chooses instead of what I had planned. But when a personality finally gels, then it sticks.

 

As for favorites, Miu was my first DD order. Misheru (a custom 01) actually became my first DD because I got her while waiting for Miu to arrive (Volks' wonderful 3 month wait). I love Miu so much. I think we have 6 Mius in our combined collection. I have 4 of my own. She is just so beautiful.

 

It doesn't to me whether a doll is custom by a pro, a second hand amateur faceup, a rare limited doll...no matter. I love all my girls. I have had the privilege of adopting several girls from friends who needed to find new homes. I hope they know that they have a good home and are well loved.

 

I agree that if you just can't make it work with Alna, let her go to a home that will love her. Then you can spoil Miu.

 

Best wishes in whatever you decide and hugs to your Miu.

Hi, just in case that makes you feel a little better, I personnally think it is terribly difficult to judge a DD mold looking at pictures and that it is always a surprise when the head actually arrives. I don't think purchasing a doll you end up not bonding with is a mistake, it's more bad luck than anything... And on the contrary, I find myself very lucky when I really bond with a mold .

The skin colour can be an issue too : I've realized that although I'm constantly attracted by white skin dolls on other people pictures, I don't bond with them that much in real*. The healthy DD normal skin colour can help if you want an energetic character. And white skin seems more difficult to photograph too ?

 

The thing that you might still try (sorry if it's not relevant, I might have overread the info) is changing the eyes though. I've realized that no eyes at all can be better to judge than eyes that don't click for you . Finding the right eyes can be tricky as they can change radically the face and the expression. Lighter and large eyes can be less energetic and lively. I usually go for neutral black eyes lately as a first try when things don't click, and then make photomanip eyes I would like to order if the black eyes were better than the default for me (then again, photomanips can be deceiving ).

 

Basically, don't feel guilty if it doesn't work with this one, this is great if Miu is the one .

 

(* aaaand I still have a Miky preordered, hoping this can work ... well, the secondary market prices being sometimes crazy, it might be better not to bond and adopting out than regretting not pre-ordering ?)

Bonding. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't, and sometimes you just fall out of love with a doll and that's entirely okay.

I give all my dolls three chances with 'makeovers' (wig/eyes/clothes/character) and if I'm still not "feeling it" with a doll after that I put them away for a month or two. If by the end of the month I'm not missing them, then it's time for them to move on.

 

My first DD was a 01 mod, that I bought on impulse whist waiting for Momo. I loved her but she just never felt 'right' to me. I tried different wig and eye combos but could never find her look, which became frustrating and annoying, and when I looked at her I became frustrated and annoyed. My best friend loved her too, so 01 found herself a great new home. The second DD I 'unbonded' with was Momo. She was a very impulsive order and I wasn't prepared for the long long wait. During the wait I got a 01, Mariko (who was my first DD love) and Lucy. By the time Momo got home I was just kinda over her. She's very cute and I love seeing other peoples Momos but with mine it just never clicked.

 

If you've thought about it and your girl just isn't working out, well maybe it's time to move her on. My logic is "I buy my dolls to make me happy, if a doll's not not making me happy then why am I keeping it?" ^^;

I really hope whatever you decide to do, that it all works out.

Misheru said:

I am in the same boat with Sister Kyoya and Baldylox in how we feel about our girls. I understand mentally that they are objects and not real people. But for me, each one has her ('his' for Hayate) personality and they touch my heart and make me happy. Those personalities are all sides of myself, too. Most are inspired by my favorite anime characters combined with my own twist. I never had real girls of my own (only a son) so it is fun to spoil and dress them up like I would have a daughter.

 

My husband also collects so combined in the H&M House of Vinyl we currently have 104 girls (well...103 girls and 1 boy - 3 of these are currently floating heads, but they already have claimed their characters). In our house, dollies only come in, they don't leave. I don't have trouble bonding. I have certain favorites, but I have never not bonded. I have had plans for a girl and then the character just not fit, so she becomes who she chooses instead of what I had planned. But when a personality finally gels, then it sticks.

 

As for favorites, Miu was my first DD order. Misheru (a custom 01) actually became my first DD because I got her while waiting for Miu to arrive (Volks' wonderful 3 month wait). I love Miu so much. I think we have 6 Mius in our combined collection. I have 4 of my own. She is just so beautiful.

 

It doesn't to me whether a doll is custom by a pro, a second hand amateur faceup, a rare limited doll...no matter. I love all my girls. I have had the privilege of adopting several girls from friends who needed to find new homes. I hope they know that they have a good home and are well loved.

 

I agree that if you just can't make it work with Alna, let her go to a home that will love her. Then you can spoil Miu.

 

Best wishes in whatever you decide and hugs to your Miu.

Thank you for the wishes and hugs for Miu~ Miu needs loads of hugs right now since she is in the works and needs a bunch of TLC from the face-up artist. Ahahahaha.

It's nice to hear your experiences with your own dolls as well. :3 Thank you for sharing! : D

marionbearmaker said:

Hi, just in case that makes you feel a little better, I personnally think it is terribly difficult to judge a DD mold looking at pictures and that it is always a surprise when the head actually arrives. I don't think purchasing a doll you end up not bonding with is a mistake, it's more bad luck than anything... And on the contrary, I find myself very lucky when I really bond with a mold .

The skin colour can be an issue too : I've realized that although I'm constantly attracted by white skin dolls on other people pictures, I don't bond with them that much in real*. The healthy DD normal skin colour can help if you want an energetic character. And white skin seems more difficult to photograph too ?

 

The thing that you might still try (sorry if it's not relevant, I might have overread the info) is changing the eyes though. I've realized that no eyes at all can be better to judge than eyes that don't click for you . Finding the right eyes can be tricky as they can change radically the face and the expression. Lighter and large eyes can be less energetic and lively. I usually go for neutral black eyes lately as a first try when things don't click, and then make photomanip eyes I would like to order if the black eyes were better than the default for me (then again, photomanips can be deceiving ).

 

Basically, don't feel guilty if it doesn't work with this one, this is great if Miu is the one .

 

(* aaaand I still have a Miky preordered, hoping this can work ... well, the secondary market prices being sometimes crazy, it might be better not to bond and adopting out than regretting not pre-ordering ?)

Alna has eyes and I think they fit her beautifully, so it's not that really. I've thought about different outfits and such but nothing has really spoken to me for her. Either things look too old for her or too young. There's never a good enough mix for me. 😞

Miu is the one that does not have any eyes yet. All she has right now is a wig and her head (she isn't wearing the wig yet since I have no wig cloth cap and I will be sending her off to a face-up artist hopefully this week! : D But I already bought a custom amigurumi to be her stuffed animal and am hoping to be able to buy some donkey slippers for her as well. It'll be so cute! ^^

And I have found it difficult to photograph Alna since she is a WS. But, just turn the flash off and it seems to be better but yeah. I'm getting used to Miu's NS. First when I got her, I thought she was dirty but nope, it was only because her skin is NS and Alna is a WS. Miu is just tan~

vanillalilly said:

Bonding. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't, and sometimes you just fall out of love with a doll and that's entirely okay.

I give all my dolls three chances with 'makeovers' (wig/eyes/clothes/character) and if I'm still not "feeling it" with a doll after that I put them away for a month or two. If by the end of the month I'm not missing them, then it's time for them to move on.

 

My first DD was a 01 mod, that I bought on impulse whist waiting for Momo. I loved her but she just never felt 'right' to me. I tried different wig and eye combos but could never find her look, which became frustrating and annoying, and when I looked at her I became frustrated and annoyed. My best friend loved her too, so 01 found herself a great new home. The second DD I 'unbonded' with was Momo. She was a very impulsive order and I wasn't prepared for the long long wait. During the wait I got a 01, Mariko (who was my first DD love) and Lucy. By the time Momo got home I was just kinda over her. She's very cute and I love seeing other peoples Momos but with mine it just never clicked.

 

If you've thought about it and your girl just isn't working out, well maybe it's time to move her on. My logic is "I buy my dolls to make me happy, if a doll's not not making me happy then why am I keeping it?" ^^;

I really hope whatever you decide to do, that it all works out.

Thank you so much for the support and I'm sorry about your 01 and Momo. I'm glad that you got another 01, and enjoyed having Mariko and Lucy though. 🙂

Edited March 21, 2019 by Pickle

And I have found it difficult to photograph Alna since she is a WS. But, just turn the flash off and it seems to be better but yeah.

 

I have this problem all the time with Naiomi, who additionally has dark hair. I feel like I'm constantly fighting to make the depth of her face stand out properly instead of being utterly washed out. The camera doesn't seem to know what to do with the lighting between two extremes so close together. If I can manage it, natural lighting is best and I can sometime make her look like she's a SWS.

 

~Sister Kyoya

 

Awh~ I'm actually thinking about possibly getting a DDS Millhi in the future. But I'm looking at a lot of photos of her and everything so I don't make the same mistake as I did with Alna, of course.

 

Do you think the trade was worth it in the end? O: Did you enjoy your new Rise, if I may ask? :3

 

Don't get me wrong, I believe Milhi IS a great girl with lots of potential, I just can't bond with her well since I notice I tend to go for the more serious (or realistic) sculpts. Hopefully once you do get a Millhi of your own you'll bond with her as well :')

 

And yes, Rise was worth the trade.Was the second Rise I managed to acquire (and the first of the two to arrive ) . She was my holy grail as well so definitely worth it . She's come to be my Naoto as well . Milhi's new owner was very happy as well because she was her holy grail, so the trade was pretty good in the end

 

On topic, I also agree with most people that if you can't make the bond work, it's best to send her off to a home with someone who would love her, at the very least~

 

And I have found it difficult to photograph Alna since she is a WS

 

I also get this as well as of late. I didn't have much problem at first when I got my first Musume Alter, but when I finally got my Rise twins and I started taking more photos of them, I just found it extremely difficult to work with alter. Most of the time she ends up being washed out, and that's not even without flash. Probably doesn't help that I always tend to keep her in dark clothing now w

Sister Kyoya said:

Pickle said:

And I have found it difficult to photograph Alna since she is a WS. But, just turn the flash off and it seems to be better but yeah.

 

I have this problem all the time with Naiomi, who additionally has dark hair. I feel like I'm constantly fighting to make the depth of her face stand out properly instead of being utterly washed out. The camera doesn't seem to know what to do with the lighting between two extremes so close together. If I can manage it, natural lighting is best and I can sometime make her look like she's a SWS.

 

~Sister Kyoya

Ah, that sounds like a problem but also seems like you manage to make it work in the end. So, I'm sorry for the trouble but congrats for making the photo eventually work!

Aile said:

Pickle said:

 

Awh~ I'm actually thinking about possibly getting a DDS Millhi in the future. But I'm looking at a lot of photos of her and everything so I don't make the same mistake as I did with Alna, of course.

 

Do you think the trade was worth it in the end? O: Did you enjoy your new Rise, if I may ask? :3

 

Don't get me wrong, I believe Milhi IS a great girl with lots of potential, I just can't bond with her well since I notice I tend to go for the more serious (or realistic) sculpts. Hopefully once you do get a Millhi of your own you'll bond with her as well :')

 

And yes, Rise was worth the trade.Was the second Rise I managed to acquire (and the first of the two to arrive ) . She was my holy grail as well so definitely worth it . She's come to be my Naoto as well . Milhi's new owner was very happy as well because she was her holy grail, so the trade was pretty good in the end

 

On topic, I also agree with most people that if you can't make the bond work, it's best to send her off to a home with someone who would love her, at the very least~

 

Pickle said:

And I have found it difficult to photograph Alna since she is a WS

 

I also get this as well as of late. I didn't have much problem at first when I got my first Musume Alter, but when I finally got my Rise twins and I started taking more photos of them, I just found it extremely difficult to work with alter. Most of the time she ends up being washed out, and that's not even without flash. Probably doesn't help that I always tend to keep her in dark clothing now w

Ah…yeah the contrast of darks and lights don't seem to like cameras… I really wish the best with you being able to photograph more though! : D

And thank you for the support~ I hope that Alna can go to someone who will absolutely adore her. I know I adore her pretty face, I just know that her character and I wouldn't work out. So basically, I appreciate her but she's basically not a character personality fit for me, sadly. D8

Edited March 21, 2019 by Pickle

I wish you the best with having things settle down in your life though. I really do.

And man, only one leg. D8

Hope your bunny feels better and gets better! : D

 

You and me both Started out about 9 years ago with 2 bunnies (both fixed females) and over the years have added to my family. All I have had spayed or neutered or adopted from shelters from year 5 on. Lost a few over the years due to bad vets and age. My current little sick one is now 8 and losing the use of her rear legs among other issues Life can be depressing....

 

On the topic though about your head hoping things are getting better with your love for Alna or love sent with her if you adopt her out I'm sure she would still know it wasn't either of your faults and send good karma your way

I have sold two of my girls and I was unsure about a third one, so maybe this will help you as well.

 

First: Dollfie Dream Momo

When I first saw her I really fell in love with her. So after a long one year wait she arrived at my place and I was really, really happy. At first I thought she was the girl I was waiting for all this time but I got really disappointed soon after. Not sure if I'm the only one, but I think Volks changed her nose after the first pictures were released. I tried to do a lot of pictures with different light and stuff, but her nose looked always weird to me and it frustrated me a lot. I sold her in in the end and: I never regretted it.^^""

 

Second: Nanoha

Again I really loved the pictures of her, but I learned that I (maybe thats only my case though xD) need to see the Doll or have it in my hands to see if it will work for us or not. What I was feeling about her, is exactly the same you are feeling with your Alna now. On one hand I liked her, on the other I was unsure about her.

At that point I never sold a doll before so I wasn't only unsure about selling her, I was also feeling guilty about it. I always told myself: "If your buying a doll, it will stay with you. No selling." Because I felt the same way as Billy, Sister Kyoya and everyone else. They are something personal, nothing to be kicked out like some old shoes. But what I learned at that time also: That there is no reason to keep something just for the sake of keeping it.

Whenever I looked at her I was frustrated. Not just with her, also with myself for not liking her the way it should be.^^" And I will tell you one thing: This feeling might not go away no matter which wig you use, which eyes or which clothes.

 

Third: Kosmos

When I got her with Momo I was disappointed with Momo and unsure with Kosmos (and that made it worse^^") Spending so much money on two dolls and not liking them in the end was a horrible feeling. (But I also learned that I won't Pre-Order a Doll again. Volks could change something in the end again, so even if I spend more on them its wiser to wait and see the real thing.)

In Kosmos case it wasn't anything particular I didn't like so I changed her eyes to the blue ones and tried every single wig I owned on her. When I had only one wig left and it was the wig that only looked good on Azuki and no one else (till that day ) I was ready to give up, but I thought: "Hey it can't hurt to try it on once. Even if you know the result." And to my suprise it looked perfect. That was her wig.^^" I never regretted it again that I bought her thanks to that day.

 

In the end this is your decision and unfortunatly no one of us can make this easier for you. You can only decide for yourself if you do it or not. In one of my cases the change of a wig fixed everything in two others it didn't change anything, but if you're really thinking so much about your Alna I would sell.

 

As SakuraSylph already said, it could be expensive but its not impossible to get her back if you miss her a lot. If you really want her back save up $5, $10 or more a month and someday you have the money to buy her again. Even though some dolls tend to be more and more expensive its still not impossible to get them even if it takes some time (and willpower not to spend the saved money ;D)

 

If its not possible to save up the money to get her back (due to the lack of willpower) then it just means she isn't important enough and it could be a sign to move on to a doll you like more

 

Hope this will help you

(And sorry for the spelling mistakes, its midnight and I'm tired x___x")

Suiseiseki4life said:

Pickle said:

I wish you the best with having things settle down in your life though. I really do.

And man, only one leg. D8

Hope your bunny feels better and gets better! : D

 

You and me both Started out about 9 years ago with 2 bunnies (both fixed females) and over the years have added to my family. All I have had spayed or neutered or adopted from shelters from year 5 on. Lost a few over the years due to bad vets and age. My current little sick one is now 8 and losing the use of her rear legs among other issues Life can be depressing....

 

On the topic though about your head hoping things are getting better with your love for Alna or love sent with her if you adopt her out I'm sure she would still know it wasn't either of your faults and send good karma your way

I plan on adopting/selling her out. I've already talked to her about it. Since I switch so bad with going to sell her then keeping her, I think she deserves a person who 100% knows that they will love her and treat her well and possibly spoil her. I also think that I should just focus on one DD for a bit since I really need to save the money for a loan I will be having to pay off soon. 😧 So I think I'll just spoil the crap out of my Miu and Alna will go to a new loving home hopefully. :3 I will probably make a forum in the marketplace once I can take more decent pictures of her and the eyes that she could possibly come with if people want to buy them. I also am trying to send Miu this week internationally to a face-up artist (first time ever sending internationally) so once I figure out how it really works then I will decide if I can send my Alna to someone who is international or not. x3

And I'm so sorry for your bunny! D8 Hopefully there is something the vet can do to help!

I do wish you the best~ :3

Kushina said:

I have sold two of my girls and I was unsure about a third one, so maybe this will help you as well.

 

First: Dollfie Dream Momo

When I first saw her I really fell in love with her. So after a long one year wait she arrived at my place and I was really, really happy. At first I thought she was the girl I was waiting for all this time but I got really disappointed soon after. Not sure if I'm the only one, but I think Volks changed her nose after the first pictures were released. I tried to do a lot of pictures with different light and stuff, but her nose looked always weird to me and it frustrated me a lot. I sold her in in the end and: I never regretted it.^^""

 

Second: Nanoha

Again I really loved the pictures of her, but I learned that I (maybe thats only my case though xD) need to see the Doll or have it in my hands to see if it will work for us or not. What I was feeling about her, is exactly the same you are feeling with your Alna now. On one hand I liked her, on the other I was unsure about her.

At that point I never sold a doll before so I wasn't only unsure about selling her, I was also feeling guilty about it. I always told myself: "If your buying a doll, it will stay with you. No selling." Because I felt the same way as Billy, Sister Kyoya and everyone else. They are something personal, nothing to be kicked out like some old shoes. But what I learned at that time also: That there is no reason to keep something just for the sake of keeping it.

Whenever I looked at her I was frustrated. Not just with her, also with myself for not liking her the way it should be.^^" And I will tell you one thing: This feeling might not go away no matter which wig you use, which eyes or which clothes.

 

Third: Kosmos

When I got her with Momo I was disappointed with Momo and unsure with Kosmos (and that made it worse^^") Spending so much money on two dolls and not liking them in the end was a horrible feeling. (But I also learned that I won't Pre-Order a Doll again. Volks could change something in the end again, so even if I spend more on them its wiser to wait and see the real thing.)

In Kosmos case it wasn't anything particular I didn't like so I changed her eyes to the blue ones and tried every single wig I owned on her. When I had only one wig left and it was the wig that only looked good on Azuki and no one else (till that day ) I was ready to give up, but I thought: "Hey it can't hurt to try it on once. Even if you know the result." And to my suprise it looked perfect. That was her wig.^^" I never regretted it again that I bought her thanks to that day.

 

In the end this is your decision and unfortunatly no one of us can make this easier for you. You can only decide for yourself if you do it or not. In one of my cases the change of a wig fixed everything in two others it didn't change anything, but if you're really thinking so much about your Alna I would sell.

 

As SakuraSylph already said, it could be expensive but its not impossible to get her back if you miss her a lot. If you really want her back save up $5, $10 or more a month and someday you have the money to buy her again. Even though some dolls tend to be more and more expensive its still not impossible to get them even if it takes some time (and willpower not to spend the saved money ;D)

 

If its not possible to save up the money to get her back (due to the lack of willpower) then it just means she isn't important enough and it could be a sign to move on to a doll you like more

 

Hope this will help you

(And sorry for the spelling mistakes, its midnight and I'm tired x___x")

I thank you for the kind words and for your experience with your own dolls. It helps to see what other people have gone through. 🙂

I think I'm just going to sell her. Alna doesn't deserve a person who isn't going to love her 100%. My mind is so iffy and I keep going back on my thoughts rapidly and she shouldn't have to go through that. So I'm planning on selling her to a home that will love her and give her the attention (and body haha) that she needs. :3

Edited March 21, 2019 by Pickle